Be the Self You Are - Not the One You Perform
What if you’re not meant to find yourself… but remember yourself?
Let’s be honest.
Most of us aren’t really living our lives.
We’re managing them.
Managing expectations.
Managing impressions.
Managing the quiet fear that we’re somehow not enough.
I know that rhythm far too well.
I used to be a really convincing version of me.
Put together. Polished. Purposeful.
I checked the boxes. I played the part.
And yet, something was missing. Not loudly. But constantly.
A subtle ache. A soft throb underneath the surface of things.
It wasn’t depression. It wasn’t burnout.
It was this strange, aching distance from… myself.
I had clarity on my goals.
But not on my being.
The self I performed was efficient.
But the self I was… just wanted to breathe.
To speak slower.
To feel more.
To let things be real.
And I fought that.
Because somewhere along the way, I’d absorbed a lie:
“Becoming yourself” is about self-improvement.
When really, it’s about self-remembrance.
You don’t need to create yourself.
You are already here. Underneath the layers. Behind the masks.
You’ve just been edited. Compressed.
Like a high-resolution soul living in low-resolution habits.
It’s not your fault.
We were taught to lead with roles, not presence.
To measure by metrics, not meaning.
To chase purpose like a product, instead of letting it emerge from within.
But here’s the shift that changed everything for me:
I stopped trying to be valuable.
And started being true.
When I spoke from truth, the right people heard me.
When I lived from truth, the right opportunities stayed.
When I rested in truth, I finally felt whole.
Being the Self you are isn’t a milestone.
It’s a moment.
And you can choose it again and again.
Every time you pause instead of performing.
Every time you say what you mean.
Every time you stop asking “what should I do?”
And quietly ask… “what feels most me?”
The takeaway?
You don’t need to become anything new.
You’re not here to be a brand, a title, or a story that performs well on LinkedIn.
You’re here to be a living, breathing, present expression of truth.
And that? That is enough.
That is sacred.
🌿 Before You Go
Just for a moment… let yourself land.
Where in your life are you still performing the self you think you should be?
And what would happen if you let her/him/them/you… be free?
Not fixed. Not improved. Just witnessed. As is.
If that question stirs something, don’t rush to answer it.
Let it live in you. Let it unravel you.
That’s the beginning.
Not of becoming.
But of being.
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